The concept of erotic blueprints is a helpful model for understanding our preferences within the diversity of human desire. But that isn’t the whole story. Our type isn’t set in stone and in fact is meant to change overtime–but this can be a confusing process.
Have you ever been in bed after what was once your “go-to” intimate routine, and something feels… different. Not wrong, not bad, but different. Maybe you find yourself curious about things that never interested you before, past fantasies you haven’t entertained in years arise, or perhaps activities that once excited you now feel routine. You wonder: Is this normal? Am I changing, or am I just getting older?
If this scenario resonates, you’re not alone. Thousands of men over 40 are quietly questioning whether their changing sexual preferences are normal or if they are supposed to stay locked in place forever – spoiler alert: they’re not.
The idea that successful relationships must follow a linear path—dating, moving in, marriage, and kids—is a limiting myth. This “relationship escalator” overlooks the diverse ways people can love and be loved. What if stepping off this escalator could lead to deeper connections and authentic partnerships? By prioritizing mutual growth, intentional choices, and open communication, we can redefine what success looks like in our relationships. Explore how breaking free from societal expectations can lead to more fulfilling and meaningful connections that truly reflect our desires and values. Discover the freedom to choose your own path to love.
TL;DR You might be poly, even if you only have sex with one person. There is an important difference between …
If you’re like most people, you are probably wondering, “What the hell is a somatic sex and relationship coach?” You’ve come to the right place. In this article, I’ll describe my somatic sex and relationship coaching practice, go over some of the main issues and goals my clients come to me with, and help you determine if this kind of coaching might be supportive for you!
